Consider the Sheep

A fun way to think about protecting your boundaries.

My fearless fucklings, this week we’re taking it back to one of my specialties: BOUNDARIES. I have yet another metaphor up my NFG sleeve that might help you help yourself in this arena, especially if nothing else has stuck quite yet.

Today, we consider the sheep.

To begin, I have two very important questions (and answers) for you:

1. What do boundaries do? They protect things!

2. What are you trying to protect? Your time, energy, and money!

Longtime readers know that I refer to your time, energy, and money as your “fuck bucks,” and like real bucks, you only have so much of each to spend before you run out or need to replenish your supply. Therefore, in order to manage them wisely, you need a Fuck Budget. (More on that here, for the newcomers.)

Setting and enforcing your boundaries correlates to making and sticking to your Fuck Budget, like so:

• DECIDING what’s worth your time, energy, and money = setting your boundaries = making your Fuck Budget.

• DELIVERING your response (i.e., saying no) to what isn’t worth your fuck bucks = enforcing your boundaries = sticking to your Fuck Budget.

Decide and deliver. Easy-peasy.

You set boundaries to protect yourself from stuff you CAN’T or SHOULDN’T say yes to (because you don’t have the fuck bucks to spare)—such as posting bail for your cousin Kevin after his third DUI; and from stuff you just DON’T WANT TO say yes to (even if you technically do have the time/energy/money)—such as, say, going out in bad weather.

More on those examples in a minute. But first:

How can we make it easier and more fun (my main goals in life, tbh) to wrangle those boundaries and your Fuck Budget into shape?