I'm currently struggling to adjust to new glasses with a new prescription. I'm also absolutely end of tether weary. I can feel myself, hear myself, bemoaning how I'm not doing anything especially well whether that is work, life, my choice of glasses, supporting others, not being physically able to exercise as I want (body says nope), headaches from my glasses, the horrendous things family and friends are going through... And here I am with fabulous looking spectacles nonetheless feeling like my head is in a vice 😭. The perfectionist doesn't necessarily believe they're chasing perfection, but rather whatever they're doing is so far from enough.
Safe to say, atm, I really shouldn't give advice to my younger self .... 🤦🏻♀️
UGH. I’m sorry to hear you are stuck in this emotional quagmire 😣😩 I was in a similar situation for about 5 months, and things only started looking up a bit in recent weeks—sometimes it just feels like the cards are stacked against you and, as you said, nothing you can do is enough to change it, despite all your best efforts! You might enjoy this book I just started reading by @Leenanorms called HALF-ARSE HUMAN, which is all about finding your groove by doing “enough” instead of too much: https://www.waterstones.com/book/half-arse-human/leena-norms/9781399820295
This is such excellent life advice. When I train new people at work one of the things I tell them is, “there is nothing you can fuck up so badly that it cannot be fixed.” I can see the weight fall off their shoulders. Everyone has bad days or bad weeks, and you have to be kind to yourself when you do.
Thank YOU for reading! And that’s wonderful that you are helping new employees manage expectations and anxiety levels on the front end. No matter how perfect and successful I was, every time I started a new job there would be a point like 6 weeks in where I would start FREAKING OUT that I was going to get fired—to the extent that my husband would be like “Oh I see it’s that time again…” 🙃
Really needed this! Being the dependable one sucks and is such a struggle. I LIKE being dependable, good at what I do, but as you've said and I've learned from a lot of recent experience, that has to come with some powerful boundary setting or your setting yourself up for failure in work, life, health, everything.
It’s such a delicate balance between being willing (and proud!) to be the dependable one, yet not letting it turn into a toxic cycle. I bid you strength 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
I'm currently struggling to adjust to new glasses with a new prescription. I'm also absolutely end of tether weary. I can feel myself, hear myself, bemoaning how I'm not doing anything especially well whether that is work, life, my choice of glasses, supporting others, not being physically able to exercise as I want (body says nope), headaches from my glasses, the horrendous things family and friends are going through... And here I am with fabulous looking spectacles nonetheless feeling like my head is in a vice 😭. The perfectionist doesn't necessarily believe they're chasing perfection, but rather whatever they're doing is so far from enough.
Safe to say, atm, I really shouldn't give advice to my younger self .... 🤦🏻♀️
UGH. I’m sorry to hear you are stuck in this emotional quagmire 😣😩 I was in a similar situation for about 5 months, and things only started looking up a bit in recent weeks—sometimes it just feels like the cards are stacked against you and, as you said, nothing you can do is enough to change it, despite all your best efforts! You might enjoy this book I just started reading by @Leenanorms called HALF-ARSE HUMAN, which is all about finding your groove by doing “enough” instead of too much: https://www.waterstones.com/book/half-arse-human/leena-norms/9781399820295
That's been recommended elsewhere too so that's definitely getting bumped up the 'read it' list!
This is such excellent life advice. When I train new people at work one of the things I tell them is, “there is nothing you can fuck up so badly that it cannot be fixed.” I can see the weight fall off their shoulders. Everyone has bad days or bad weeks, and you have to be kind to yourself when you do.
Thank you for this awesome article!💕
Thank YOU for reading! And that’s wonderful that you are helping new employees manage expectations and anxiety levels on the front end. No matter how perfect and successful I was, every time I started a new job there would be a point like 6 weeks in where I would start FREAKING OUT that I was going to get fired—to the extent that my husband would be like “Oh I see it’s that time again…” 🙃
Really needed this! Being the dependable one sucks and is such a struggle. I LIKE being dependable, good at what I do, but as you've said and I've learned from a lot of recent experience, that has to come with some powerful boundary setting or your setting yourself up for failure in work, life, health, everything.
It’s such a delicate balance between being willing (and proud!) to be the dependable one, yet not letting it turn into a toxic cycle. I bid you strength 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
Or as H Mirren put it a bit more succinct
’ If I could give my younger self one piece of advice, it would be to use the words 'fuck off' much more frequently’
She is a true queen!
and spot on