How to Take Constructive Criticism Like a Total Fucking Grownup

6 tips for putting on your big kid panties and being accountable to yourself and others

My feisty fucklings: if you were bullied as a kid (or even as an adult)—by peers, coaches, or maybe even a few D-bag relatives—then you’ve probably heard and tried to take comfort in some form of “It’s not you, it’s them” or “Don’t listen to them, you’re perfect just the way you are!”

And that is wonderful advice when dealing with uncalled-for insults a…