Fuck No!

It's Okay to Say No to a Party. (Here's How.)

Easy, polite, and effective ways to send your regrets with no regrets.

Oct 14 •

Just Say No...to Your Boss?!

It could be the smartest thing you do all week.

May 20 •

The Power No: Another Tool in Your Boundary-Setting Box

How to shut unwanted shit down without saying a word.

May 6 •

Consider the Sheep

A fun way to think about protecting your boundaries.

Apr 15 •

Do You Really HAVE To? (A flowchart)

On real vs. perceived obligations, and a flowchart to help you make decisions for all the right reasons.

Mar 11 •

The Guilt is Coming from Inside the House

Why you feel bad for setting boundaries, how to address it, and my favorite thing to say to people who can’t take no for an answer.

Mar 4 •

Meet the Yes-Men

If your boundaries are in tatters, these little devils are probably to blame.

Feb 26 •

Beware the Brain-Pickers

Tips for defending your boundaries (and your bottom line) from sneak attack.

Feb 5 •

What's it Worth to You?

How to stop undervaluing your time and expertise - and say perfectly reasonable No's to UNreasonable asks.

Jan 29 •

Give Yourself the Gift of Me-Time

Advice for the overwhelmed this holiday season

Dec 11, 2023 •

The "No-and-Switch" is Your New Secret Weapon for Setting Boundaries

The "No-and-Switch" works like a charm.

Oct 23, 2023 •

10 Tips for Saying an Effective "No"

I can help you do it with confidence and flair, and WITHOUT looking like an asshole.

Oct 18, 2023 •

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